There are two major concerns we had to work through before saying “YES!!” As my wonderful sister wisely told me, “Adoption is harder than being pregnant. If you’re pregnant, even if the timing is all wrong by your perspective…too bad! You have no choice but to embrace the news. With adoption, you have to analyze if this is the best choice for you as a family to make…and even then people around you may still think you’re crazy!”
In our case we might just be a little crazy??!!
Even in college we had a heart for adoption one day! Well...it is safe to say it is now One Day. And in a way to redeem the
crazy out of our situation, let me share what we had to work through.
1.
Sharing Love. Again I cried as I rocked Jaden to sleep. So in love with my little boy. Jaden has always been enough to
satisfy every longing to love a child. God has graciously gifted us another
precious child to overwhelm with love. However, the fear that we have to make room to share our love with Jaden is hard to fathom! The truth is, we know we don’t have
to share our love, God expands it with each child. Just as He expands His love
for each child He adopts into His Forever Family. I am certain--as every parent with more than one child can attest--God will expand our love at first sight! (Actually, God is already growing our love for this little one!) We'll find out around Valentine's Day if we're having a son or daughter!!
2.
Risk. Most times Godly pursuits cost a lot.
Jaden’s adoption was filled with emotional cost. This adoption should be an
“open/shut” case. Since this adoption is through an adoption agency in Florida,
we will have no attorney in North Carolina to deal with! HUGE Praise! It should
finalize in 4-6 months because of the parental rights being easily terminated.
AND we can even show pictures on his/her BIRTHday! However, we must continue to
pray for the safety of this little one still in darkness. Geesh…can you imagine
how hard it is to know your baby is being “cared for” in another woman’s womb!
Please pray for the protection of our little one. This was the same fear for
Jaden—as Jaden's birth mom said when we saw her at Thanksgiving, "I really thought he was going to have problems at birth!" Yes, God amazed us with His provision. Jaden was and is the healthiest and
most beautiful child. Our angel baby!
Our greatest risk, and honestly what almost kept us from
saying “yes” is the financial burden. Because of some incredible people in our
life, the financial burden of Jaden’s adoption was made light. Since our second
adoption providently is coming through an agency, we have to trust that God
will provide the $28- $30,000 it will cost us. We're praying for a miracle!
Why are we going with an agency you ask?? Well, because this is how God choose to knit us together with this (our) child. We don’t understand God’s sovereignty, we just listen and obey. And this wasn't something we were seeking out. God sought us out and asked us to be faithful!
Why are we going with an agency you ask?? Well, because this is how God choose to knit us together with this (our) child. We don’t understand God’s sovereignty, we just listen and obey. And this wasn't something we were seeking out. God sought us out and asked us to be faithful!
So, whether
the money comes through grants, fundraisers, loving donations, or years of
paying it off…we have to trust our Great God will provide. And as Dustin says,
“Our God owns a thousand cattle on a hill!” haha The saying really goes... “God
owns the cattle on a thousand hills!” We don’t have it, but God assured us He
does!
Every Christian may not be called to adopt a child, but we are all commanded to pray for orphans and pray for God to reveal our part in the adoption process. What is your part?
Every Christian may not be called to adopt a child, but we are all commanded to pray for orphans and pray for God to reveal our part in the adoption process. What is your part?
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33% of Christians say they would adopt. The reason most don't is because of financial concerns! ONLY 2% of Christians actually adopt!!!
Did you know...If ONE family in every three churches adopted one child...
The Needs
Adoption is a calling, and for us The Nallycats…it’s our
calling. Yes, God is blessings us as parents through the sacrifice of other women needing an alternative parenting plan for an unplanned pregnancy. In no way are we seeking for handouts...we are trying to do everything we can to work hard to see our child rest peacefully in our
arms this June. We are being obedient to God's call to actively care for the orphans. And hope that we inspire you to find your part in caring for the orphan too...and it might be helping us bring this little one home! Here are ways you can help us invest in this child’s LIFE!
- Please pray for the safety of our baby and God's provision in bring him or her home in June! Our birth mom is due July 15th, but since this is baby #9 and all her babies have come at least two weeks early, we need to be ready mid-June!
- BUY BOOKS!!!!! This may be the most encouraging way to support us...because we know God will encourage others through it! Please buy my books to encourage others. I may only get a few dollars from each book that sells, but this is a great way to spread the word about our adoption through social media, while allowing the Truth of God’s Word saturated throughout these books to encourage people! If you really want to help: Please put a link to my books on your Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram and that every dollar is going to our adoption fund. Here are the three books:
Absorbed: Becoming Physically, Emotionally, and Spiritually Intimate as God Designed. If you or someone you know has questions about dating, marriage, or how a lifetime of singleness can bring God glory, this book is for you! This book is a wonderful resource to battle the lies this generation has believed about singleness, dating, and marriage.
The Storms of Life: Trusting God through Emotional Pains, Hurting Marriages, and Addictions. An encouraging book for anyone needing strength while suffering.
- We have a donation page set up at www.YouCaring.com where you can give monetarily to our agency to fight with us for our child! This makes raising funds simple and fun...knowing that your money goes directly to this precious child's life!
- Grants and other fundraisers! We’ll keep you posted about fundraisers!
Yes, the monetary burden is our reality. And no one enjoys asking for help. Quite honestly, it is downright difficult sharing this burden! We know that is our pride. Because God calls us as the Church to work together to see His work fulfilled. This child is His Work! And…buying back lives is costly! Strange as it may seem to all "pitch in" for buying back the life of this child into our home, it is the world we live in. Adoption is very expensive. It isn't like our insurance covers most of the bill. Joining together financially gives you an opportunity to be a part of God's command to care for orphans.
What we need most is prayer for all the above mentioned fears. Our Loving Father has entrusted to Dustin and I precious children that HE CHOSE to redeem from the darkness of their situation to the beauty and light of a Christ-centered home, our home. Was this the plan we had for ourselves many years ago...no, our plan was FAR easier! As we faithfully follow the Lord, we know this plan however difficult is much more rewarding! We hope you join us in being a part of God's grand adoption plan for this child!
What we need most is prayer for all the above mentioned fears. Our Loving Father has entrusted to Dustin and I precious children that HE CHOSE to redeem from the darkness of their situation to the beauty and light of a Christ-centered home, our home. Was this the plan we had for ourselves many years ago...no, our plan was FAR easier! As we faithfully follow the Lord, we know this plan however difficult is much more rewarding! We hope you join us in being a part of God's grand adoption plan for this child!
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Will be praying for you lovely folks! I love you both!!
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